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Episode 80 – The Holidays, The Coronavirus, and Letting Go Of Perfection

The Holidays, The Coronavirus, and Letting Go Of Perfection - Alice Agnello

Holidays in the time of the coronavirus.

Hey There Beautiful,

The holidays are quickly approaching here in the United States and if you’re an overachiever like me, you’re already planning the food, decorations, and all the other important details that stress us out.

But nothing about this holiday season is going to be normal due to the coronavirus so-o, start thinking outside of the box now, and you won’t be frustrated later.

Disclaimer coming . . .

Any of my suggestions or ideas should not be viewed as advice for how to keep yourself and your family safe from the coronavirus.

Please go to the appropriate websites like the CDC here in the US for guidelines on how to plan for your holiday celebrations.

Ok, now that I have the disclaimer out of the way I will continue.

Perfection has no place in your holiday planning.

My biggest piece of advice is to LET GO of perfection.

This holiday season is NOT GOING to be PERFECT.

We all have our own ideas on the perfect dinner, the perfect decorations, the perfect dinner conversation that doesn’t include your dear Uncle Jim belching at the table while he drunkenly rambles on about the story you’ve heard no less than 19 times, and the perfect activities that you always do like go to the movies on Christmas Day.

You may not have anyone at your house at all which would be a huge change for you since you’re the one who usually entertains the whole family for the holidays.

Here's some of my suggestions on how to celebrate the holidays with the coronavirus:

So as I said, start thinking outside the box. If you can’t celebrate with your family and friends in the same room, how can you at least capture the spirit of the holidays and make everyone feel loved?

  • Is it making cookies and sending them in a care package?
  • Is it making Thanksgiving dinner ahead of time, packaging it up in plastic containers, and then having family members pick up the food from your house a day or two before from your front porch?
  • Is it coordinating a massive Zoom call so everyone can at least see and talk to each other while eating the food they picked up from your house?
  • Is it mailing a hand-written note everyday in December describing to each of your children a wonderful memory of them from Christmases in the past?
  • Is it having family come over to sit outside around a firepit, socially distanced and wear masks as needed, and making s’mores? (Each family would bring their own ingredients.)
  • Is it sending Christmas ornaments to your children so that they can begin to increase the number of ornaments in their collection? Or send them ornaments from your collection that they have fond memories of hanging on your tree when they were little?
  • Is it staying home and cooking a smaller amount of food for just you and your spouse and promising that next year the money you saved this year will be used to celebrate in another city with your entire family?
  • Is it finding out from your local senior center which occupants have no family and beginning a letter exchange with one of them to keep their spirits up?
  • Is it teaching one of your children how to make your famous apple pie over FaceTime so you can still have fun together even if you’re not in the same room?
  • Is it putting together a scavenger hunt for your grandchildren to go on around their house and discover little treats that you made while watching the entire hunt over FaceTime? (This would of course require the help from their parents but if you do most of the coordinating, why not?)

Don't compare the holidays this year to the holidays in the past!

I hope that some of these suggestions will get your ideas flowing on making changes to how you celebrate this holiday season.

No this is not going to be like how it’s been in the past so accept that now and be ready to embrace those changes.

And don’t sit there comparing this year to previous years.

That’s not going to help you. You may discover new traditions that will be created through your persistence of capturing the holiday spirit.

I'm going to enjoy this holiday season no matter what!

Nothing is going to stop me from achieving the feeling that I get during this time of year.

It’s a warm feeling in my chest that makes me feel so happy.

I’m going to set up my holiday decorations two weeks earlier than normal. I usually put them up over Thanksgiving weekend but not this year. I’m putting them up next weekend.

I’m also already listening to holiday music. I’m one of those people that can listen to holiday music at ANYTIME of the year, particularly Mariah Carey’s “All I Want For Christmas Is You.”

And I’ll watch one of my favorite holiday movies, “Love Actually” and probably get sucked into watching too many holiday Hallmark movies as well.

Have a safe and happy holiday season!

So get out there and spread the holiday spirit in a safe, socially distanced masking wearing type of way. We can handle ANYTHING that comes our way especially around the holidays and still make it memorable with lots of love.

 

I’ll talk to you later Beautiful!

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Alice Agnello, Lifestyle and Success Coach

I'm Alice Agnello.

I’m a California raised, incurable romantic who was too snarky for the corporate world. I love show tunes, chai tea, and all things British. My mission? To help women rediscover who they are, after their kids have grown.

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