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Episode 82 – 10 Things I’m Thankful For This Wonderfully Wacky Year of 2020

10 things I'm thankful for in this wacky year of 2020.

Hey there Beautiful,

Happy Thanksgiving! 

This is Thanksgiving week in the United States, a time that I try and reflect on what I am truly thankful for this year.

I gotta be honest.

It was harder this year to sit down and write what I’m thankful for but I did it!

I’m going to list ten things I’m thankful for so if I can do it, YOU CAN TOO. Pick up a blank piece of paper, the back of an envelope, or your journal, and make a list of everything that you’re thankful for this year.

I looked back on my episode last year before Thanksgiving for inspiration and to see what I was thankful for at that time. Some of those things from last year still apply today.

Full disclosure coming . . .

For full disclosure, I started and stopped writing this top ten list about three times because I got stuck trying to come up with two more reasons to be thankful for that had real meaning to me.

I easily thought of silly things to be thankful for like finally finding the perfect rose gold nail polish and finally finding a mask that I could wear that didn’t allow my breath to steam up my glasses thus rendering me blind for seconds at a time.

But I dug a little bit deeper and found the last two things to be thankful for after listening to a radio program while I was working out. You never know when inspiration will hit you.

Okay here’s ten of the things that I’m thankful for:

1. I’m thankful for my husband.

I tell him all the time that I love him but I’m extremely grateful that I still like him.

We still get along and agree on most things.

The times that we don’t agree we both can still dig in our heels but we’re both smarter now due to our mutual experiences and hopefully wisdom. We can recognize how stupid some of our disagreements can be and laugh about it.

It’s just the two of us in the house now with our dog Delilah and the pandemic has made us closer, stronger, and hopeful for all the plans that we have for us to do together.

2. I’m thankful for being an introvert.

For years, friends would tease me about always wanting to go home instead of going out to bars or parties.

Well the one thing the pandemic helped me to do is make it normal to stay at home even more.

There is nothing I love more than drinking my chai tea, sitting on the couch, and enjoying the quiet with a good book.

Being an introvert has it’s advantages but one thing I may struggle with is making myself leave my house once the pandemic is under control. I’ve gotten so used to leaving my house only for grocery shopping that it may take a while for me to want to go out and be social again.

3. I’m thankful for being healthy.

This was on the list last year and my husband had just got through his ACL surgery and horrendous recovery. So I was extremely glad he was doing better.

This entire year my husband has been battling something and we still don’t know what is causing it. So while everyone else in my immediate and extended family are doing well my husband is just so-so.

Each test he takes I hope that it comes back negative but I also hope that it comes back positive so that we then have a reason for the way he’s feeling. We then can plan and have a course of action to get him feeling better.

So I’m thankful that everyone is healthy but I may have to make hard decisions soon about what direction I need to take in the upcoming months to help my husband and whatever could possibly come next.

4. I’m thankful for music.

I’ve really leaned on music this year to help boost my spirits, dance away frustrations, and shake the walls of my house or car in order to help me to keep going.

All genres of music are on my playlists and the only thing I won’t listen to are songs that make me feel sad and devalued.

This year while stuck at home at various times due to the coronavirus, watching movies and new original series have kept my spirits up.

Again just like with music, I do avoid some series for being too dark or the subject matter I know will make me have frightening dreams at night.

The hopeless romantic in me has sighed wonderfully at times as I wipe away a tear after another happy ending and I’ve also laughed out loud for so long at some comedies that I have to rewind to catch what I missed.

6. I’m thankful that both of my sons are employed.

My eldest son lost his job right at the start of the pandemic. He searched and searched for anything in or out of his field until he finally found a job, five months later. He just recently found a new job that is more in line with his degree and he is so happy.

My youngest son has a job that pays for all that he needs while he tries to figure out his next career move since traditional college was not for him at this time.

7. I’m thankful for my home.

When you hear about families losing their homes due to the pandemic because they can’t pay the rent or due to one of the natural disasters that has occurred this year, I stop what I’m doing and am grateful that I have a roof over my head.

We bought our home about 13 years ago and thanks to my husband being a contractor, we have remodeled it into a space we both love to be in.

I’m truly thankful that when I turn on the faucet there’s instant hot , clean water and if it’s cold in the house, I can turn up the furnace to warm up in a matter of minutes.

8. I’m thankful that my husband could keep working during the pandemic.

Because my husband owns his own home construction and remodeling business, he never had to stop working during the entirety of the pandemic.

Most of his work was outside and still is even now in the winter months.

Many people began to think about remodeling parts of their homes since they were stuck at home and fortunately called my husband for his excellent craftsmanship.

My husband is such a hard worker that I have to remind him that sometimes it’s okay to say ‘no’ to certain jobs because he won’t have the time to complete them. He hates letting people down and I love him all the more for it.

Just imagine if the pandemic had hit during a time before electronic devices or software could allow us to keep connected with our family and friends.

The isolation would have been devastating to many people. FaceTime, Zoom, and Skype allow us to communicate and see facial expressions, body language, and the silly antics of our children or grandchildren.

No, it’s not the same as being in the same room and giving a fierce hug to a friend who needs it but technology has allowed us to continue working in some fields as well as have a connection to another human being when we really need it.

10. I’m thankful that I have the power of choice.

This concept was on my list last year and I built upon it this year.

If I chose to keep saying no to myself then I have nowhere to go and only one person to blame if I don’t move forward. I have the choice to choose a new path that is definitely scarier than the one I’m on.

I have the choice to change my mind about a decision that was made earlier and hopefully reverse any damage that occurred.

I can keep making choices until I see the results that I want.

I felt that the power of choice for many years was taken out of my hands since I allowed every one of my decisions to be driven by what my children and family needed from me.

When I now make choices I try very hard to listen to what I want first and allow that to lead me.

Are people sometimes upset and frustrated with me?

Absolutely.

Am I okay with that?

Absolutely.

Have a safe and happy holiday season!

So take the time to come up with your list of what you’re thankful for, even if it takes you a few days like it did for me. 

There is one more thing I am very, very thankful for. Can you guess? It’s you silly. Tuning in each week to listen to what I have to say makes my heart expand just a bit more. Sending you much love today.

I’ll talk to you later Beautiful!

Did you miss this trip down memory lane to hear about what I was thankful for in 2019. Go listen NOW!!!

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Alice Agnello, Lifestyle and Success Coach

I'm Alice Agnello.

I’m a California raised, incurable romantic who was too snarky for the corporate world. I love show tunes, chai tea, and all things British. My mission? To help women rediscover who they are, after their kids have grown.

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