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Episode 66 – Is Taking Care Of Yourself A Priority To You?

Is Taking Care Of Yourself A Priority To You?

Taking care of yourself should be your FIRST priority.

Hey there Beautiful,

There’s nothing like having a back injury to make you notice things about your life.

I’ve had my back go out on me probably three times over a year’s time. Oh and if you didn’t know, this time I injured my back doing single leg Romanian deadlifts which caused a ligament from my hip to my spine to roar in anger.

Yeah I won’t be doing those for a while.

Now you have to understand that for the first week with my back injury, I could barely walk without help and laying down on the couch or my bed was the only option. The second week I progressed to being able to walk without help, stand for brief periods of time, and lay down for the rest of the time.

So for a lot of the time, my younger son and husband were doing everything for me, cooking all of my meals, getting me ice packs, ensuring the TV remote controls were within arm distance, you get the gist.

There's nothing like an injury to make you realize how picky you are.

So here’s a few things that caught my attention about my life while staring up at the skylights above my couch:

  1. My mom is STILL the best person to take care of me. Don’t get me wrong. I love my husband and my son and all that they had to do for me. But there’s just something about being taken care of by your mom that makes everything better. 
  2. There are things that I do around the house that bother me but don't seem to bother others. I noticed these things AFTER I was able to move around more than just 30 seconds at a time. For instance, crumbs all over the kitchen countertop. I guess I’m the only one who sees those crumbs and then cleans them off into the trash can. Or an organized kitchen pantry seems to not be a concept others in my house understand.
  3. My husband going shopping by himself will allow more food in the house than is necessary, especially foods that I don’t want to buy since I will then inhale them if they are available in my house.
  4. Man, am I picky; or, maybe I should just say I’m particular. I gave up trying to tell my husband and son how I wanted my chai tea to be made because it just wasn’t worth it. I would remind them how to do it each morning, they would get exasperated and say, “I know,” and then when I asked if they remembered to put in the collagen they would say, “Oops, I forgot.” Sigh.
  5. Sleeping by myself is AWESOME!!! I got the MOST RESTFUL sleep when I decided to sleep on the guest bedroom mattress. That guest bed is the firmest in the house and I thought it would be better for my back. Little did I know that by being in that room, I really truly slept in who knows how long! Now I am the ‘princess and the pea’ when it comes to sleeping, which means I’m a bit finicky when it comes to my sleeping arrangements. I have to have it as dark as possible and no sounds. My bed and pillow have to be just so or I get a crick in my neck and my back hurts. In my bedroom, I have to contend with the noise from my husband’s air purifier, the noise from our dog, Delilah, as she snorts, rolls around, itches and scratches, ALL NIGHT LONG! (I love her but she makes so much noise it’s ridiculous!) I also have to deal with the light from my husband’s iPad when he’s watching a show, the light from his phone charger, the light from his air purifier’s “on” button, and the light from my son’s room as he opens and closes his door when I’m trying to go to sleep. In the extra bedroom, there is no noise and the only light I have to contend with is the light from the window shade as it peaks out to let me know it’s time to get up. I may need to sleep in the extra bedroom from time to time just because I want to get a great night’s sleep.

Anyways, while not moving for long periods of time on the couch watching childhood movies on Disney Plus, I kept asking myself, “Why did this happen to me AGAIN? Was the Universe trying to tell me something?”

The only thing I could come up with was that I’m not truly taking care of myself as I should. And I’m sure I’m not the only one who is behaving this way. I bet you’re doing it too and not even realizing it.

How much of your time is prioritized around taking care of others?

Be honest with yourself and don't wave your hand around to disregard this question so casually that it's no big deal.

IT IS A BIG DEAL!

How much time are you taking care of others? And by others I mean, your spouse, your children, your grandchildren, your boss, your co-workers, your friends, your parents, your pets, basically anyone that you encounter that you put their needs before yours. As I’ve mentioned before, women are valued and rewarded when we take care of others, especially when women take care of others BEFORE taking care of ourselves. 

This leads to women telling ourselves that we don’t have enough time and prioritizing our time for other people and their commitments. 

So when women tell ourselves that we don’t have enough time for what we want to do, by NOT prioritizing our time for ourselves, what we are really saying is, “I’m not a priority.”

To make it simple, if you don’t prioritize your time for yourself first, then you are telling yourself you’re not a priority.

That was a lot to drop on you all at once.

To make it simple, if you don’t prioritize your time for yourself first, then you are telling yourself you’re not a priority.

You are not important.

This is a hard concept for women to understand and especially to put into practice, make themselves the first priority in their life. It is very easy to use the excuse of “I’ll do it later,” when it comes to taking care of ourselves.

I think that’s what the Universe is trying to tell me.

I’m not listening to what my body is telling me. I need to take care of whatever is going on and ensure that there is not something really serious with my back. So I decided to put off what I’ve been avoiding. I made an appointment with my doctor and we shall see what happens.

Who would you be, how would you act, if you were your first priority?

And, now I ask you? 

What are you putting off because everything else in your life is more important and a bigger priority than yourself?

Are you putting off beginning a workout routine?

Going to the gym?

Taking a walk every morning?

Doing the research to see what online yoga community you could join to exercise at home?

Are you putting off changing what foods you eat in order to lose weight because that would mean other people in your house would complain and whine about having nothing to eat in the house? (I know from personal experience on that one.)

Or are you worried that eating healthier would take more time to cook or meal plan?

When was the last time you got your eyes checked, had a mammogram, or had your blood work checked to see if the reason you’re soooo tired could be due to your thyroid acting wonky?

What about hiring someone to help you with your business because you can’t get everything done in 24 hours any given day?

Do you avoid taking care of yourself because you’re afraid of getting to know the woman you are now?

Write down ALLLLL the things you've been putting off for yourself!

This week, I challenge you to write down ALL the things you’ve been putting off that has to do with taking care of yourself.

If you don’t make yourself your first priority and take care of what’s important to you, you will NOT be any good at taking care of others.

You will burnout.

You will resent the people you care about. You will continue to be unhappy with the way you interpret and view your life. 

Once you have your list, decide for yourself how many items you want to accomplish per day, per week, or per month to take care of yourself. Then start checking off those items on your list based on the time table you set up.

No one will hold you accountable except for yourself so if it helps, show someone your list and ask them to help keep you accountable.

Put those items in your calendar with the deadlines of when you want them completed. 

Please remember, you don’t have to get ALL of them done in one day or even one week. You set the pace. Don’t make it unachievable because then nothing on your list will get done.

If you haven’t already, you could join the Kids Are Grown, NOW WHAT? closed Facebook group and let us help you be accountable. Join the group and then make a post of all the things you want to make a priority to you. We can help cheer you on, hold you accountable, and help answer any questions that get you stuck on how to move forward.

Be your number one priority and create the time to take care of yourself.

I’ll talk to you later Beautiful!

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Alice Agnello, Lifestyle and Success Coach

I'm Alice Agnello.

I’m a California raised, incurable romantic who was too snarky for the corporate world. I love show tunes, chai tea, and all things British. My mission? To help women rediscover who they are, after their kids have grown.

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