How do you set boundaries with other people in order to be happy?
Hey there Beautiful!
We all have them, whether they are real or imagined.
A boundary can be the fence in your backyard, showing other people where your area ends and someone else’s begins.
A boundary can be a subject that you won’t talk about with another family member since there will be a point or limit that indicates where your opinions will become different.
Boundaries vary in size and shape. Allowances are given to expand the size and shape of a boundary sometimes to the impact and detriment of ourselves because we believe that we have to in order to keep the peace.
But that peace doesn’t include ourselves and we then do not know how to expand the boundary back to its original location where we were comfortable.
Today’s guest, Val Selby, and I discuss boundaries and a bunch of other wonderful subjects in the interview coming up next.
So who is Val Selby?
Val Selby coaches women over 40 that it’s time to take their turn.
Mid-life and all the transitions that came with it left her lost and unsure of who she was. Part of the confusion was letting others opinions change who she was. Boldly owning her strong personality she now encourages women that their personality traits are their greatest assets and should be shared.
With encouraging words and honesty Val will open your eyes to the choices you are making and how you are allowing others to treat you. You can guarantee there will be belly laughs even as you are working through the hard stuff.
There is some language that might not be suitable for young children so be sure to pop in your earphones if you have little ones around.
And without further ado, my interview with Val.
What you will learn in this episode:
- Why we worry when we try to set a boundary
- Who are your “true” friends
- Why you shouldn't be a birthday martyr
- Communicating boundaries can be a hard conversation to have and how to have them
- How you will attract better people in your life when you establish boundaries that make you happy
I hope you learned something new with my interview with Val. Her laugh is infectious and we had so much fun during the interview as well as when I wasn’t recording. She is the one that gave me the idea for last week’s podcast about being a celebration martyr. Go listen to episode 57 to learn about how being a martyr on your birthday or during any other celebration about you does NOT work. And if you want to know more about Val, all the ways you can contact her are below.
I’ll talk to you later, Beautiful!
Links mentioned in this episode and how to work with Val:
- Val's song that she can't live without, Me Too by Meghan Trainor
- Val's Website
- Val's Facebook Page
- Val's Twitter
- Val's Pinterest
- Val's Instagram
- Val's LinkedIn
- Val's Podcast, Your Bold Life, on Apple Podcasts
- Go for No! Yes is the Destination, No is How You Get There by Richard Fenton and Andrea Waltz
- Sliding Doors movie starring Gwenyth Paltrow
- Bath and Body Works
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