How do you know if you should leave your marriage?
Hey there Beautiful,
Do you ever stress about whether or not you’re making the right decision? You go back and forth and back and forth trying to evaluate and reevaluate all options before finally choosing a path to go down.
But then there are other times that you know with 100% certainty that this is what you should be doing and the decision is effortless and light.
So who is Laurie Wright?
Today’s guest had to wrestle with a big decision, whether or not to leave her 25 year marriage at the age of 47 with two grown college-age daughters.
What’s crazy is that I am now her. I just celebrated being married for 25 years in January and I have two grown college-age men.
The big difference being I’m happy in my marriage and can’t imagine life without my best friend.
My guest, Laurie Wright, is now 61 years old, has five grandchildren and has been remarried for over 10 years.
She was kind enough to agree to come on my show and share her story about how she ended up making the decision to leave her marriage in the hope for something better. I very much appreciate how open and honest Laurie was throughout the entire conversation. One of the things she said really struck me. She said, “When she realized she was caring more about what other people thought, than caring about her own life, she knew she needed to do something.”
Let me say that again, “When she realized she was caring more about what other people thought, than caring about her own life, she knew she needed to do something.”
Isn’t that how it always is? You get so wrapped up in what other people think that it immobilizes you into freezing in place. And the more you stay in place, the more unhappy you become. And the more unhappy you become, the negative voice that takes over all of your thoughts gets harder and harder to ignore. Once you learn to shut off the negativity and come to a place of not caring what others think, you can find your happiness.
What you will learn in this episode:
- Why after 25 years of marriage at the age of 47 years she realized she didn’t want to be married to her husband anymore.
- How she got to the point of being alone in her marriage while still being married.
- Why even if you decide to separate from your spouse it doesn't mean the end.
- How she realized she was caring more about what other people thought than caring about her own life.
- What should you ask yourself to figure out if you want to stay in the marriage.
- Why if you’re not happy in the marriage most likely the other person is not happy in the marriage as well.
Laurie Wright, also known as Not Your Average Grandma, likes to call herself the Queen of midlife transformations, after scoring a hatrick by having one in 3 different categories in the past 13 years: love, health and career.
At age 47, she faced divorce after being married for 25 years, at 55 her realization that her arms had turned into bat wings led her to get in the best shape of her life, and most recently, at age 60, she left her corporate career for good and took her part-time passion of coaching full time.
Her mission is to help empty nesters stop settling for a life they don’t want and figure out what they do want so that they are poised to enter their next chapter with renewed passion, purpose and focus.
She has created a program called “Make the Rest Your Best.” where she teaches her MOJOO Method system in a guided, interactive way that offers support and accountability to help accelerate the transformation process.
She believes everyone is here for a reason and what she loves most is to help middle aged women find that thing that lights them up most, before their time runs out.
If you are in a place of indecision regarding your marriage, please listen to this episode as just another tool to help you make a decision.
You are the only one who can make the decision.
I can’t do it for you and neither anything that Laurie says too.
Laurie gives you her viewpoint on how she made the decision to leave her marriage after trying therapy many times and realizing she wasn’t happy. She even says that if you decide to separate from your spouse, it doesn’t have to mean it's the end. Your version of separation doesn’t have to be like anyone else's. It just has to be right for you.
And now my interview with Laurie.