I feel like I need to take a moment and THANK all of you for listening every week to me and the sound of my voice coming through your earphones or speaker.
And with everyone’s daily routine changed, I know it makes it harder to find the time to listen. You might have listened to me on your way to work in the car or after work when you went for a run on the treadmill. You might have listened to me after everyone left the house as you sat on your back porch to enjoy your second cup of coffee.
But those routines were changed for a while and we can’t accept those as the new routines because we know that at some point we will revert back to the old routines. So we are doing this slow dance of shuffling forward and not quite committing to it 100%.
We want to go back to those familiar routines but we have a small inkling that part of it will not go back to exactly the way it was. And so I again, I THANK YOU for finding the time to listen when you can every week.
Okay this week’s episode I want to talk about being nice.
How can we be nice?
It’s a four letter word that people don’t use enough. The dictionary defines nice as, “pleasing, agreeable, delightful, and kind.”
Being nice is one of the first things we teach our young children.
“Be nice to the kitty. Don’t pull his tail.”
“Be nice to your brother. Don’t hit him.”
What if the news ONLY had nice stories?
You don’t hear enough news stories about people being nice. Mostly I believe it’s due to people not wanting to toot their own horn. “Oh look at me and what I did today to be nice.” Other people will see the act of kindness and then bring our attention to those that are nice to others.
But it’s not enough.
We need more stories of being nice and doing random acts of kindness.
Imagine what the world would be like if all you saw and heard for at least an entire month on the news was about people being nice?
Here's a list of ways to be nice.
Here they are in no particular order or popularity:
- When you see someone reaching for something that they can’t get off the top shelf, offer to get it for them.
- When someone offers to help you, take the help when it's offered.
- When you get the urge to do something nice, do it! Don’t second guess yourself.
- Tell someone discreetly that they have something stuck in their teeth.
- Pay the order for the car behind you in the drive through line.
- Park in the parking space that’s a bit farther away in the parking lot to allow those who need to park closer the ability to be able to.
- Let the person merge in front of you when you’re driving. You're not driving for Formula One or NASCAR.
- Don't tell the people around you, “This is the best part,” when watching a movie.
- Say, “Good morning” to the people you pass on the street instead of putting your head down and ignoring them.
- Give your umbrella to someone who obviously needs it.
- Make someone laugh even if it’s at your expense.
- Offer to open the door for someone.
- Before you allow the door to close behind you, turn your head and make a quick check to see if anyone else is coming behind you and hold the door open for them.
- Don't stare at women whose kids are screaming in the store, the restaurant, or in the parking lot. Instead, send a silent message of encouragement because we have all been there. I will actually smile at them to know I’ve been right where you are and don’t worry about it.
- Give people the benefit of the doubt before jumping to conclusions. Don’t take everything so personally.
- Allow your neighbors horse to graze on your property. (That was sent in by my dad. I had to put in one from him.)
- Be the person to invite someone new to a group and then make them feel welcome.
- Put DOWN your phone when you’re talking to someone no matter who they are: the parking attendant who is trying to give you change, the grocery store worker who is scanning your groceries, and MOST IMPORTANTLY, your family!
- When you sweep your sidewalk, sweep your neighbors as well.
- Be more forgiving when someone makes a mistake in front of you.
- Pick up a piece of trash that you see on the floor instead of walking by it even though you saw it.
- Say thank you to every person that helps you no matter how big or small the service is they provide to you.
And these two were sent to me by multiple people:
- Smile. The simple act of smiling at someone can brighten their day.
- Give someone a compliment. Cute shirt. Nice lipstick. Pretty earrings.
And my favorite that was sent in:
- Help someone out even if it doesn’t benefit you or bring you something in return. Do it out of the kindness of your heart.
Of course the most important person to be nice to would be yourself.
Now if you take one of these suggestions or one of your own and do it. I would love to hear about it. Send me an email to firstname.lastname@example.org and tell me what you did. I will feature what you tell me on the podcast in an upcoming episode to encourage others to BE NICE.
I’ll talk to you later, Beautiful!