How do you become a mature version of yourself and not act like a child or a teenager when in conversation with others?
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Alright so today’s episode . . .
Have you ever been in an argument with your spouse over the dumbest thing? You’ve dug in with your opinion, your spouse has dug in with theirs, and now you’re at a stalemate.
The latest one between me and my husband occurred over whether or not it’s okay to brush your teeth in the shower?
Can you guess what my opinion is on the subject?
Yes you are correct!
It’s NOT okay to brush your teeth while in the shower. Yuck! Gross! Disgusting!
I live here too you know and take showers and baths in that bathroom. It still creeps me out when I think about it. He is of the opinion that it’s perfectly fine to do and actually more efficient with less waste of water. I understand his logic but it’s still a hard NO for me.
What he does is he takes his toothbrush with toothpaste on the bristles into the shower. He brushes his teeth, and then opens the shower door just enough in order to throw his toothbrush so it lands somewhere hopefully on the bathroom countertop or maybe in his sink.
I’ve also found it on the floor behind the trash can when his aim was not on target.
I think that brushing your teeth should be done at a sink. It’s just grosses me out to think that there is saliva somewhere in the bathtub.
I know, I know, there’s probably worse things in my bathtub but just the thought of spitting in the bathtub just gets my heebie jeebies going.
So we were at an impasse. Neither one of us wanting to budge. Only after I huffed away and left him still brushing his teeth in the shower that I remembered all of the wisdom that my guest on today’s episode gave me.
So who is Michelle Irving?
Today’s interview is with Michelle Irving. Michelle is a highly experienced Intimacy and Relationship Coach. She is passionate about supporting women to access their inner mature, feminine, adult. I know you are probably asking, “What does that exactly mean?” But trust me, you will know all after you listen to this episode. She offers private sessions for her international clients via Skype and in person in her hometown of Melbourne, Australia.
I gotta tell you, I was exhausted after this interview with Michelle. Only because it really made me think and evaluate how I was treating others and how I was showing up in all my relationships, but especially with my husband.
There are so many great moments in this interview that I highly encourage you to listen to it once and then wait a week. Then come back and listen to it again because I know you will take away something new each time you listen to it.
One of the things she said that really struck me was, “As women, we are conditioned to take care of everyone else. We have not been taught the skills of how to care for ourselves in a healthy way. Everybody else’s needs have to be met, before we can attend to our own needs. This is the model we are raised in.”
This is so true of me and I know may be true for you too.
What you will learn in this episode:
- What is the mature feminine and how to stay grounded in the chaos around you.
- Why when women are in a relationship we feel that we have to defend our views.
- How to checkin in with yourself when you are in a heated discussion with someone and step away if needed.
- How you are rewarded if you get along with others as we are taught when we are young.
- How to make agreements with your spouse instead of rules.
- How to identify if you're being your true mature self in your life.
There is some language that might not be suitable for young children so be sure to pop in your earphones if you have little ones around.
Now, get ready to settle in and learn some things about yourself that may hurt a bit, but it will be so worth it to listen, absorb, and use in your evolution of reclaiming who you are.